So here we are, sitting at a table with some lovely ladies at my husbands church. I had been invited to join them for a women’s conference and dinner. We are all chatting, vying for airtime, trying to be humorous and most of these jokes are centering around our role as mothers and wives. One question is posed about baby showers. Do you have one for every baby? Or just for each gender? Or just one? So the friend who asks the question makes a comment, “I mean, seriously, what do you buy someone who already has 4 kids?”
I cofidently blurt out “A noose!” Well, two of the dignified ladies almost spit their food out in sudden laughter because I am sure they were quite surprised that this not-yet-member of their church is daring enough to say something so absurd… and it obviously hit their funny bone. The other two, gave me the most polite dirty look I have ever seen and remained silent for the next 10 minutes or so.
So what is the right thing to do here? Do we apologize for our words? It was obviously well-received by half the table, and if my vote counts- that makes a majority. Should I have said something apologetic in quiet to the ladies who were unaccepting of my radical joke while I was in their modest setting? Well, I of course did the casual ‘forget I said that’ hand wave- and the “I’m just kidding, just kidding, just a joke, just kidding” sidestep.
Well, that was an awkward moment.